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Why I Resigned

On Monday, I walked in to the office and gave my manager my two weeks’ notice. It was the shortest conversation ever.

Me: “Just wanted to inform you my last day will be October 13th.”

Manager: “Where are you going to work?”

Me: “I’m leaving to pursue other opportunities.”

Manager: “Are you leaving the city?”

Me: “I’m leaving the company.”

Manager: “Well, best wishes.”

Then, I got up, mentioned something about using the rest of my vacation, and left the room. You’re probably wondering, what the heck. But the truth is the conversation went as expected. The reason I left the company is because my manager was bullying me and treating me differently (negatively) than my male colleagues. I had documentation, had gone to HR, and nothing happened.

I hope to never have to go through it again. It was scary. I felt powerless and it was awful. But thankfully I was not alone. Could I have moved internally? Yes, I was working on leads internally, but I, also, wanted to get the heck away from manager. I went from being a top performer to being criticized about things that were uncalled and inappropriate remarks. I started to look externally for a job, and landed a position that was a better fit (5-6 weeks after I started looking). I really could not turn it down, once I got the offer. It would have taken me a couple years to finally land a similar position at my current company.

Once I put in my notice, apparently I shocked people. But I didn’t shock my current manager. I made some great relationships, but it’s time to move on.

What I learned from this experience:

  1. The Importance of Confidence: I could have stayed longer, endured, waited for management to change. But I decided it just wasn’t worth it right now. I’m at a point in my life where I can take risks. Taking this job was a risk, but I learned a lot and it helped me land the new position. But I’m valuable. So if the company doesn’t value me, then I will find somewhere else where I will be valued.
  2. The Importance of a Supportive Spouse: I love my husband. He’s very supportive and is actually the one who said I shouldn’t have to put up with a manager who doesn’t value me and who attempted to bully me.
  3. The Importance of a Network: For support, for job leads, for help in desperate times.
  4. The Importance of Friends: For support, for help in desperate times. Friendships are so important.
  5. Bad Managers Suck: Bad managers are demoralizing. I had never had a bad manager before and it totally sucked.

We’re not financially independent yet, but the reason I want to be financially independent is because I want to have freedom. I don’t want to be stuck to a job because I can’t survive without it. I want to have power.

Did I make the right move? I don’t know. Time will tell. Am I making a bad move? No, I am not.

2 Weeks Notice

On Monday, I will walk into the office and give my two weeks notice. Oh, also, I will tell my manager I will need to take 5 days off to use up all my vacation. My company does not pay full for vacation, so I’m going to take the vacation instead.

I’m both excited and anxious. I will go into more detail of why I decided to resign after a little over a year with the company when I think it’s appropriate. I write anonymously, but still…

One of my college professors told my class that our generation will work for seven companies in our career. I’m five years into the corporate life (started at 22) and will be on my third, once I start my new job with my new company.

We’re, also, relocating once again. We are moving back to Dallas. I received/accepted an offer and it happens to be in Dallas. It’s going to be a crazy few months.

I’m super excited about this new opportunity. I’m, also, very grateful for this opportunity came at the right time when I need to exit from my current role. But seriously, I’m going to stick at this company for a few years. I’m nervous. I’m starting over again and I was just starting to build a network at my current company. But I learned so much, so I just need to remind myself to focus on the future and be positive. I will do awesome at this next job and I will be close to friends and family (pro’s and con’s on that one). But I’m beyond excited to be close to my best friends. The ones, where I can just show up and fall asleep on their couch.

I have an amazing husband, who is once again moving and putting his job security at risk again for my career. He landed a job a few months ago and he’s working for a really good team. He’s going to be here for a bit longer, then he will work from home until sometime next year.

There are many decisions coming up. Yes, more than deciding to resign from my current job, and accepting another. Like where are we going to live?

So, we have been tossing the idea around of buying a second house in Dallas. Our current house is rented to a couple of friends. So this is a great opportunity to start on the rental income path. So here are the options:

  1. Buy a house – the market is so crazy hot in Dallas. I never thought I would spend as much money as we’re thinking of spending, but there’s really nothing available below $200K. I increased our budget to $250K, and even then, it’s slim pickings.
  2. Build a house – This would be a super complicated ordeal. But we would get everything we want (well hopefully) for as much as we would spend buying an already built “used” house.
  3. Move into our old house – We move into our already purchased house after we give notice to our current tenants. We will spend money fixing it up. We bought this house in 2013 as a fixer upper. It needed a lot of fixing it up. When we moved in, it barely had running electricity. We decided that if we moved in, we would spend the money and time to work on a lot of internal projects while we are not in the house. Projects: Install hardwood floors throughout house, gut the bathrooms, drywall and insulate the garage, remove popcorn ceilings, paint the inside of the house. We could probably wait to do the garage once we moved in, but the floors, bathrooms and popcorn ceilings would need to be completed before we moved in to the house.

It’s a hard choice to make. I don’t know what’s the right decision. I don’t want to be house poor. I don’t want to buy an overvalued house. We have long term plans to get to financial independence, and I don’t want our current decision to put a damper in our plans.

I’m 27 year old who’s just trying to make the right decisions in life. I swear after we finish this episode in our lives, life will slow down.

Making Decisions at 27

This blog has always been about sharing the ups and downs of someone trying to manage all aspects of life: money, career, personal.

I always admire the people who have made it: Mr. Money Mustache, Root of Good, Retire by 40, and Mr. 1500 are just a few of the bloggers who inspire me. I started following them when I was 21, working on my master’s degree, and living paycheck to paycheck.

Last year, I received an opportunity to switch jobs and increase my salary. The upfront incentives were nice. It was a really hard decision to make. I was not actively looking for a new job, but was recruited through LinkedIn. I had a great boss and a really good team, but part of me wanted to grow and learn something new. I was ready for a new challenge. So, I accepted the offer. We moved across the country, my husband quit his job, took some time off, and then found a new job. So much change. So little time.

Things were going really great. I was nominated for top performer of the year, received great feedback from my manager. But then I moved to another team (I didn’t really have a choice). I was put in a very challenging role, and I was ready, and excited to tackle it. It took me a few weeks to realize my new manager is super green, micro manager, insecure, no idea what he’s doing. But I thought ok, I can do it, I can make it. Then, things started getting worse. The perfect storm. I can’t share a lot at this moment, but will write more when I can.

I had to quickly figure out what I was going to do. If I left the company for another position, I would have to pay back part of the incentives, and lose out on my employer 401K match. If I stayed, I’m not quite sure what would happen. Through the grapevine, I found out some things about the fate of the last team he managed two years ago. I started to lose faith.

I have a really strong support network. My husband is amazing. He moved across the country for me. I, also, have great friends. Great mentors.

Something else resonated with me. Stacking Cash wrote a comment on one of my posts in July. “Be and feel empowered with yourself, it will go a long ways in your life.”

I’m not sure if I’m making the right decisions. I hope I’m making the right decisions.

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We are not at a point where I don’t need my job. Not FI yet. Maybe in five to ten years we will be there. But at this point, not quite there for me to just say I’m not going to have a job. But this is why FI is so important for me.

When things like this happen, and you’re faced with a situation where you don’t know what to do internally. I think the best everyone can do, especially women, is to be empowered.

Corporate Gig Warning

Just finished a pretty rough week. Well, actually most weeks have been pretty rough lately.

Today being Friday though, my mood did improve. I smiled, I laughed….I did a great job of faking it today!!! Payday is 10 days away!

I wanted to write a quick post to warn people. Corporate america is very cut throat. It’s all about numbers. We just started our new budget season. Sales are down, which means there will be people cuts. I know for a fact there will be cuts because I’m close to the numbers.

It’s a reason why I’m more determined than ever to hit FI. Yes, it might take 15 years, but there’s no way we can be fifty trusting we will still have jobs.

Companies are no longer loyal. Plus, you are expected to do more with less.

There are days where I want to tell my 20 year brother about how horrible it is. But I have to be careful not to strip him of his motivation.

I’m already encouraging him to save money and learn how to manage a budget.

On another note, I have spoken with 3 soon to be dads in the past week. When they mentioned they will soon be going on paternity leave, I asked when they will be back. Our company’s paternity policy is two months if you will provide 50% of the care. If you will provide less, it’s 2 weeks. It’s basically a technicality for when both parents work for the parents. One parent has to declare primary, and the second parent, secondary. In my department, 3 dads have taken the 2 months in the past year. I encouraged all of them to take the 2 months. After all, I’m a proponent of equal parenting.

All 3 dads said they were taking 2 weeks. They are afraid to take more than 2 weeks for fear of losing their job.

Corporate Lessons

Today’s post is about life in the corporate environment.

My previous company is an international company with more than 100,000 employees worldwide and operations in roughly 180 countries. I was one of many floating in the corporate bowl. Working there was not an easy experience. The company prides themselves in sink or swim training. Basically, you learn to survive on your own or you will soon be out. There were many moments of misery, frustration, joy, and excitement. I built a strong network and left many good friends when I decided to leave. When I announced my resignation, a couple of leaders approached me and expressed their surprise. Apparently, I was viewed as a rising star. Hah good to know!

What I learned from my first corporate job:

          Make friends, not enemies – The company was very political. 50% of the time I felt like I was managing political tension. I know I made a couple of enemies just because I didn’t know how to react. But I learned. Don’t lash out. Always be calm, and step away when you can if situations are getting out of hand. Hard work is important. But it’s also important to make friends. It’s important to be political. At least get people to know your name and like you.

          Help people and express gratitude – I received many a helping hand along the way during my corporate tenure.  I’ve learned to express gratitude and in turn help more people. When I resigned, I approached someone who I knew had been trying to into our department. She was smart, capable, and had the right experience. Plus, she would be a great fit in the great team. I’m happy to hear she will be joining the team in 2017.

          Learn to take constructive criticism – If it’s not constructive, view it as constructive. It’s hard to be criticized. Believe me.

          Don’t be afraid to reach out, ask for help – Don’t be shy. When you don’t know the answer, ask until you find the person that will direct you. If you don’t ask, you will just sit there not knowing, and be unable to come up with an answer.

          Work hard. I get in early and leave late.

 On to my next gig. I am working for an international company with again more than 100K+ employees and operations all over. I’m applying the principles above. I can definitely say the experience at my previous company is helping me tremendously. I’m glad I worked and learned for my previous company. It toughened me up. 

The past six months have been challenging. Learning something new every day. But I can say, I’m closing out the year with good results. 

New Job

I mentioned before my life has been quite hectic due to a relocation and new job over the summer. I was not actively looking for a new position, but I was open to starting a new role in the next year. When I say active, I mean spending time applying to open positions on the web. Several companies had contacted me through LinkedIn about varying types of roles throughout the country. For the past year, I had been honing my interview skills by replying and going through the companies’ hiring process. At the time I had acquired 4 years in the technology industry. I interviewed with many tech companies, as well as oil, retail, and CPG. I knew relocation was possible, but it was also possible I could land a new role in Dallas, TX. Staying in TX would be ideal because my husband would not need to find a new job.

At the same time, I was also pursuing roles within my company. I made it to the final round for two jobs (I know this either through discussions with the recruiter or people close to the hiring manager). One was in sales and the other was a similar role to what I was in but in another business unit. I was also in discussion with another manager to try to get on his team (again similar role but different discipline). Ultimately the leads fell through but I learned so much from it. It’s tough facing rejection, but it gets easier the more you face it. Plus, every interview round taught me many things about myself. I just kept trying on both fronts. 

I just knew it was time for a change. I communicated this to my manager and he was actually giving me more. I truly miss working for him. The new work was actually exciting, but it was hard because I couldn’t let go of my then current responsibilities. In essence, in order to pick up new and exciting work, I had to expand my workload.   

So guess, my desires where answered and out of nowhere I landed a role with a company that wasn’t even on my radar. We picked up and moved.

I’m not going to lie. It’s scary. Even though I was getting tired of my previous job, I was comfortable and confident. I knew who to go to, I knew what to do. I could say no because I was an owner, and people trusted my opinion and decisions. It took four long years to build relationships and knowledge. And I know to some four years is nothing, compared to ten years, etc., but the point is it took time.

Now, I’m starting from scratch. I miss my friends, I miss my home, I miss my favorite places to eat. I’m scared I will fail at this new role. I’m considered a newbie (once again), and even though I have more experience in the function than some people I’m working with, I don’t have experience with the company. And I know it’s extremely important to get the internal company knowledge. 

But in order to grow, you have to jump into uncomfortable situations and embrace change. This is what I’m doing. 

3 Years in Corporate America

In June, I had my 3 year work anniversary. I can’t believe I lasted 3 years at my company. I have had many challenges, tribulations, and frustrations. But here I am, somehow surviving. I was looking through my posts about my career, and realize a lot and not a lot has changed.

We finally set it out on our own. We have our own house, we support ourselves, and don’t depend on anyone. It’s amazing! I would never go back. Even though work is not the ideal life, it beats not being independent.

In the past 3 years, I’ve learned corporate america is not for me long term. I’m already planning our financial independence from the man. I don’t know if I’ll join a small organization. Frankly, because I want us to be financially independent, I have to suck up and be where the money which right now is corporate america.

I’ve also learned politics suck. I’m being more political but I am a sucky brown noser. I can’t help it, I wear my emotions on my sleeve, and when I think someone is stupid, it’s hard to hide it.

Corporate america sucks the life out of me. I am at work from 730 to almost 530. Sometimes I leave at 5. Depends on the day. I hit the gym at work, then head home. So I end up arriving between 630-7 PM depending on traffic and when I left my desk. That is 12 hours away from home. Ouch…So much time dedicated to getting to, being at, and leaving work.

I do miss living so close to work, now I’m 30 minutes away. I don’t miss living in an apartment.

I’m living in the grind. Every week, I countdown to the weekend. I look at my calendar to check when our next paycheck is in the month. My life is starting to resemble Office Space.

Beware students getting into tons of debt. It’s not worth it. You salary won’t match it. Go to a school that has the best return of investment. Many kids don’t look at college this way, but it is the smartest way. Thankfully, I have no school debt, neither does hubby. Just don’t do it. You have been warned.


Why Completing Your FNP Degree Online Can Be a Smart Financial Move

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Going to school to become and being a Family Nurse Practitioner (FNP) is a great way to involve yourself in the medical community and provide meaningful service. However, between classroom time and clinical hours, it can be difficult to balance work and your schooling. In addition, getting a degree can be costly. Check out some ways that completing your FNP degree online can be a good decision financially.

No Moving Costs

One of the benefits of online schooling is that you can stay exactly where you are. Whether you already have a job in your location, or it’s out of your budget to make a move for school, there are lots of different reasons why staying put is the preferable financial move. Finish your FNP degree from the comfort of your own home without having to sacrifice stability or your work. This is especially important if you have kids or dependents at home; keep their lives stable by taking classes at home.

Many programs also offer distance learning where only a few weeks a semester on campus are required. This gives you the opportunity to travel without having to commit to the school’s location, and it also gives you the opportunity to meet your instructors in person.

Flexible Hours

Working? Young kids or aging parents at home? An online FNP program lets you choose during what hours you do your school work, letting your life carry on like normal without jeopardizing all your time. Especially when it comes time to do clinicals, sitting in a classroom for long hours doesn’t work well for many lifestyles and home situations. Improve your future while keeping up your responsibilities with an online program. Many schools offer either full-time or part-time programs. Depending on your schedule, you can work at your own pace and still complete the program in a timely manner.

Financial Aid Availability

Nursing programs can be expensive. Most schools offer some kind of financial aid. With the average cost per course hour reaching up to $400, even more for out-of-state tuition, make sure to check out your chosen school’s available fellowships and scholarships. These can help balance out the cost, especially when coupled with a student loan.  If you don’t want to take out a loan or want to reduce the amount that you borrow, working while taking classes is often the best option. Working and participating in a traditional program can be difficult, but with the flexibility of an online program, working to support your education is a lot easier.

No Crowded Classrooms

One of the best parts about online education is the individual attention coupled with the independent study portions. If you enjoy working at your own pace and taking control of your education, an online program is an excellent fit. While it may not work well for those who have a hard time staying motivated or who like face-to-face communication, if you enjoy challenging yourself and are committed to your education, an online FNP program may provide the structure that you need to excel.

Online school helps you balance your personal and educational life while staying within your budget and minimizing student debt. Also, it’s a great option if you want to keep working while you’re in school and if you work well in an independent learning environment.

How Toastmasters Has Helped Me Gain Confidence

When I joined Corporate America two years ago, I was the youngest team member by a few years. Starting from scratch in a new environment when everybody is looking at you because you are so young is crazy. I’ve learned a lot about Corporate America, which I’ve shared before in other posts. In one of my posts, I spoke about getting involved in groups or activities at work. I joined my company’s Toastmasters group to improve my public speaking skills. In the past year, I have seen significant improvement in how I communicate in front of audiences. Toastmasters has also helped me communicate better during one-one conversations.

I have noticed the following improvements in my speech:

  • A decrease in nerves
  • Using less crutch words (i.e. like, uh, uhm,)
  • Appropriately using pauses instead of crutch words
  • Maintaining eye contact with the audience

I have, also, met so many people from different parts of my company. It’s a really great to network passively. We are all there to build our skills, so we’re concentrating on our individual skills not talking to anybody else, thus, it’s easier to talk to people. Double win!!!

Improving my public speaking skills is going to help me in my career and life. Right now my career is my main money making scheme, so it’s extremely important to keep up any and all skills.

I still have a whole lot of work to do! Have you seen seasoned Toastmasters speak? They are AMAZING! One day I will be like them.

Until then, I have to keep practicing. This is me leaning in to my career.

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How to Succeed in Corporate America

This past June, I completed my second year in Corporate America. It has been thrilling roller coaster ride! I have learned a lot about myself and I have even picked up a couple things on how to succeed in this type of environment.

First, I don’t know if Corporate America will be the rest of my life. Sigh sometimes I kick myself in the foot for not considering other opportunities. Looking back I had a couple of chances to go a different direction, but I didn’t believe in myself or thought I wasn’t cut out for that kind of work. I’m trying to be more confident and asking about any and every opportunity. For example, I have asked about a job opportunity when came up in my department. I even asked about a global opportunity. I figure the more I ask, the more comfortable I get asking, even I face rejection, which I often do. Which leads me to the first lesson learned that will help you succeed in Corporate America

  1. Don’t be shy, talk to everyone, and ask about everything. One of the biggest challenges I had at the beginning of my job assignment as my serious lack of confidence. Don’t know why, but I was so intimated about approaching people. It took me a few months to get over this fear. My boss even pointed it out in my review. He thought it was strange because our previous interactions had not been like this. So, I got over my fear, and as I have become more comfortable in my area, my confidence as grown. I smile at everyone! Talk to everyone! And ask questions! Remember ask questions. Get to know people. Most of the time people are super nice and are willing to help. I know I am more than willing to help, sort of like returning the favor. When you hear about an opportunity to gain deeper breath, ask. This is harder than it seems, but now my boss sort of knows I will ask about any opportunity I hear about, no offense to him. I am at a point in my career where I need to grow, after all.
  2. Become a Subject Matter Expert in Your Area. Most likely you will come into your first job in Corporate America with absolutely no knowledge in your area. Holy crap, I still don’t know what I’m doing it, but the first couple of months were the craziest. I was getting asked to do things and about things that I had no clue how to answer. Even though I’m in sourcing, since I work for a tech company, my job includes a lot of tech lingo. So, I find myself reading a lot of technical material. I listen to the engineers. I listen to the suppliers. I listen to everybody. Some people have noted I am very well versed, and are surprised to find out I have only been in my position for 2 years. This makes me gush with happiness to know all my hard work is paying off.  You can become a subject matter expert by doing your research. It will pay off.
  3. Create an internal network. I have to admit I am not the most social person ever. And I’m part of a very hard working team that may or may not believe that socializing is acceptable as part of your work duties. But you can’t advance without creating a strong network. I have worked really hard to create a network within my company. I have joined Toastmasters, I am volunteering at special events, and I am trying to eat lunch away from my desk. Has it paid off? I’m not sure. BUT. One of the directors called me up on Friday to see if I was interested in another volunteer opportunity. She said she thought of me and thought I would be a perfect person for the opportunity. Hey! I’ll take it. I’m on people’s minds!

My primary responsibility is to rock at my job since it’s my primary and biggest source of income. It’s challenging starting out because there’s no secret recipe. Everyone has different circumstances and experiences. Do you have any additional ideas to succeed? Please share!


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